Comments on: Learning To Trust http://transcendbulimia.com/archives/108 An uplifting journey to recovery from bulimia - with tips and coaching for your own recovery. Wed, 02 Jul 2008 19:39:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Heather http://transcendbulimia.com/archives/108/comment-page-1#comment-475 Heather Wed, 21 Jun 2006 01:59:15 +0000 http://transcendbulimia.com/?p=108#comment-475 Hi Turtle, You're welcome and I thank you for sharing such a beautiful comment! What I saw in your words is that you are an amazing evolution of spirit. From a childhood of pain to this courageous woman who believes in herself and the possibility of a life of peace and joy. Your is a story that gives hope and inspiration. Your words are inspiring and shifting -- I want to shout HOORAY!!! :) I think you'd really like Rhonda, she is the definition of empathy -- and in her empathy, you emerge with a sense of self-love and the wonder of the world. It's funny, several of us are going in the month of July. I was hoping to meet some people there, but the dates didn't all seem to work out. I am going with one of my clients from overseas on July 17th, 18th and 19th. I'm going to have a "check in" with Rhonda to see how my health is at this point. I am very excited to see her. July may just be the month when we all hold the intention to heal -- when we all go see Rhonda and hold a collective intention to heal. What an amazing amount of energy we could create, huh? HMMM, I like that idea! Let me know if you decide to go! Thank you for your beautiful words! With love, Heather Hi Turtle, You’re welcome and I thank you for sharing such a beautiful comment! What I saw in your words is that you are an amazing evolution of spirit. From a childhood of pain to this courageous woman who believes in herself and the possibility of a life of peace and joy. Your is a story that gives hope and inspiration. Your words are inspiring and shifting — I want to shout HOORAY!!! :)

I think you’d really like Rhonda, she is the definition of empathy — and in her empathy, you emerge with a sense of self-love and the wonder of the world. It’s funny, several of us are going in the month of July. I was hoping to meet some people there, but the dates didn’t all seem to work out. I am going with one of my clients from overseas on July 17th, 18th and 19th. I’m going to have a “check in” with Rhonda to see how my health is at this point. I am very excited to see her. July may just be the month when we all hold the intention to heal — when we all go see Rhonda and hold a collective intention to heal. What an amazing amount of energy we could create, huh? HMMM, I like that idea! Let me know if you decide to go!

Thank you for your beautiful words!

With love,
Heather

]]> By: turtle http://transcendbulimia.com/archives/108/comment-page-1#comment-464 turtle Mon, 19 Jun 2006 23:11:05 +0000 http://transcendbulimia.com/?p=108#comment-464 Hi Heather... wowie, did what you say resonate with me. I have not known how to trust myself. I was told continually as I grew up that I could not trust myself...that everyone else knows more about who I am and what I need and what I should do... I grew up in a very scary home that was not trustworthy. I could not trust my parents to protect me when I needed it. I was not protected from their behavior. I have spent a lifetime trying to figure out what is wrong with me and how to fix it. I have been to so many fix it doctors of the mind and body...sure that if I could just get fixed I would be worthy of being on this planet. I have experienced the message over and over that I am not enough. Fear has been at the root of many of my issues. I discovered that I was afraid of life, afraid of being alive, afraid of being me..of being on this earth, afraid of loving...afraid of being loved.....afraid of trust me or you...absolutely. I have proved over and over that I can not trust myself...cause I have abandoned myself over and over to anxiety. If I can not feel safe inside my own skin, how can I trust myself... You sure brought up a lot for me. I would like to trust myself, I would like to believe that I know what is best for me. I have never stuck to anything, a place, person or thing.. not my marriage, not parenting, not a job or career focus, not a home or a place I have lived. I have had so many ideas and for the most part I have given up on myself...and not followed through.. I have lived with one foot out and one foot in. I made a move back to my homeland in November, thinking this was going to be the panacea. It has brought me to the dept of such grief...all the grief of all the running I have done. I meet this grief and pain on a daily basis, missing the place I had lived for the past 15 years. So HOW can I TRUST myself I ask myself...I keep pulling myself down. I am exhausted... I am 51 years old and an underearner...acheiver....Fear runs my life... I spent so many years preocuppied with food...I could not trust my hunger or lack of hunger. I could not trust myself to stop eating.... But, I know that recovery and change is possible....I am not depressed or in a black hole.. I know too much on a deep level...I know a shift in me can take place. I have so much gratitude....for so many gifts in my life... I see possibity and I see that it is going to take self trust and learning to experiment ....take a chance... I have been thinking of going to see Rhonda Lenair, who, I first heard about 3 years ago, to work on my anxiety. I would like to move forward. Alll the hours of therapy have not lifted the anxiety. I feel I really could trust myself and move forward if the anxiety were not so prevalent in my life. Thank you for "listening," I know this is long winded and something I needed to express. Everything on this blog or website is so profound and such a gift!!! I, like so many others, are so grateful and appreciative of what gifts you give us here! I can not thank you enough... Turtle Hi Heather…
wowie, did what you say resonate with me.
I have not known how to trust myself. I was told continually as I grew up that I could not trust myself…that everyone else knows more about who I am and what I need and what I should do…
I grew up in a very scary home that was not trustworthy. I could not trust my parents to protect me when I needed it. I was not protected from their behavior.
I have spent a lifetime trying to figure out what is wrong with me and how to fix it. I have been to so many fix it doctors of the mind and body…sure that if I could just get fixed I would be worthy of being on this planet. I have experienced the message over and over that I am
not enough.
Fear has been at the root of many of my issues. I discovered that I was afraid of life, afraid of being alive, afraid of being me..of being on this earth, afraid of loving…afraid of being loved…..afraid of trust me or you…absolutely. I have proved over and over that I can not trust myself…cause I have abandoned myself over and over to anxiety. If I can not feel safe inside my own skin, how can I trust myself…
You sure brought up a lot for me. I would like to trust myself, I would like to believe that I know what is best for me. I have never stuck to anything, a place, person or thing..
not my marriage, not parenting, not a job or career focus, not a home or a place I have lived.
I have had so many ideas and for the most part I have given up on myself…and not followed through.. I have lived with one foot out and one foot in.
I made a move back to my homeland in November, thinking this was going to be the panacea.
It has brought me to the dept of such grief…all the grief of all the running I have done.
I meet this grief and pain on a daily basis, missing the place I had lived for the past 15 years.
So HOW can I TRUST myself I ask myself…I keep pulling myself down. I am exhausted…
I am 51 years old and an underearner…acheiver….Fear runs my life…
I spent so many years preocuppied with food…I could not trust my hunger or lack of hunger.
I could not trust myself to stop eating….
But, I know that recovery and change is possible….I am not depressed or in a black hole..
I know too much on a deep level…I know a shift in me can take place. I have so much gratitude….for so many gifts in my life… I see possibity and I see that it is going to take
self trust and learning to experiment ….take a chance…
I have been thinking of going to see Rhonda Lenair, who, I first heard about 3 years ago,
to work on my anxiety. I would like to move forward. Alll the hours of therapy have not lifted the anxiety. I feel I really could trust myself and move forward if the anxiety were not so prevalent in my life.
Thank you for “listening,” I know this is long winded and something I needed to express.
Everything on this blog or website is so profound and such a gift!!!
I, like so many others, are so grateful and appreciative of what gifts you give us here!
I can not thank you enough…
Turtle

]]> By: Heather http://transcendbulimia.com/archives/108/comment-page-1#comment-423 Heather Mon, 05 Jun 2006 01:53:37 +0000 http://transcendbulimia.com/?p=108#comment-423 Hi Shera, You bring up a great point about trust and freedom. Both of those words meant a lot to me as well -- it's a great idea to look at how they relate. I think for me, once I trusted, I felt more free. I remember reading Eckart Tolle's A New Earth, where he was talking about "accepting what is." At one point, I realized that if I just accepted anything that ever could happen, I would be free -- free of fear of the unknown. It was like a revelation for me becuase I spent so much time worrying about the "what ifs." That really helped me start to trust. It showed me that I didn't have to worry if I already accepted what is, no matter what. I still work to cultivate this today. It's wonderful that you are looking at this in your life and I'd love to hear what you think as you experiment. With love, Heather Hi Shera, You bring up a great point about trust and freedom. Both of those words meant a lot to me as well — it’s a great idea to look at how they relate. I think for me, once I trusted, I felt more free. I remember reading Eckart Tolle’s A New Earth, where he was talking about “accepting what is.” At one point, I realized that if I just accepted anything that ever could happen, I would be free — free of fear of the unknown. It was like a revelation for me becuase I spent so much time worrying about the “what ifs.”

That really helped me start to trust. It showed me that I didn’t have to worry if I already accepted what is, no matter what. I still work to cultivate this today. It’s wonderful that you are looking at this in your life and I’d love to hear what you think as you experiment.

With love,
Heather

]]> By: Shera http://transcendbulimia.com/archives/108/comment-page-1#comment-417 Shera Sun, 04 Jun 2006 01:27:41 +0000 http://transcendbulimia.com/?p=108#comment-417 Oh ya when I first started reading I was thinking that one of my core issues is freedom and the lack thereof that i have created in my life. Perhaps I can find how trust and freedom relate... Shera Oh ya when I first started reading I was thinking that one of my core issues is freedom and the lack thereof that i have created in my life. Perhaps I can find how trust and freedom relate…

Shera

]]> By: Shera http://transcendbulimia.com/archives/108/comment-page-1#comment-416 Shera Sun, 04 Jun 2006 01:26:17 +0000 http://transcendbulimia.com/?p=108#comment-416 Though I am searching for someone to 'make it better for me' or to help me heal I know the answers are within. That search for the inner strength is a challenging one. Reading what you wrote has really struck a chord. I have been looking lately at bringing in more trust for my body and increasing my relationship with her. I guess I also need to work on the inner trust - that's a biggie... Thanks for writing this. Shera Though I am searching for someone to ‘make it better for me’ or to help me heal I know the answers are within. That search for the inner strength is a challenging one.

Reading what you wrote has really struck a chord. I have been looking lately at bringing in more trust for my body and increasing my relationship with her. I guess I also need to work on the inner trust – that’s a biggie…

Thanks for writing this.

Shera

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