Comments on: My Spiritual Journey to End Perfectionism

By: Emily

Emily — Fri, 21 Jul 2006 06:20:39 +0000

Thanks for the invitation, Heather! You never know, I just may take you up on it some day!

love,
Em

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 21 Jul 2006 06:18:14 +0000

Hi Emily, Thanks — I never mind the 3 plus hour drive to Benson because of the beauty of the trip. Somehow, the sun is always shining — it’s amazing! Any time you want to come to New England, just let me know! Or maybe we can rotate the blog reunion that J suggested — to all of the places where we live — I’d certainly like a good excuse to visit CA!

With love,
Heather

By: Emily

Emily — Fri, 21 Jul 2006 04:33:41 +0000

Hi Heather,

What a beautiful post! I loved your description of the drive to VT! I have to say, although I LOVE living in CA, New England has a charm to it that is unique to it. Your vivid description of the scenery and the houses transported me there in spirit, and it felt like a revitalizing little journey just to read about it!

I’m glad you had such a wonderful session, and that your client had such a fulfilling expereience as well.

Your life sounds so full… I am amazed at how you find the time to do all you do — AND still dedicate so much time to us on your blog and in coaching!

Congratulations on learning to care for yourself first! It is so important! How can we care for others without taking care of our own needs first?

I look forward to seeing the pictures you are going to post of your trip to Rhonda’s!

lots of love,
Emily

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 21 Jul 2006 02:21:41 +0000

Hi Karen, You’re welcome — I always feel so wonderful after seeing Rhonda that it was a pleasure to put it into words. I’ve already gotten several e-mails from others who were healed by Rhonda, thanking me for writing this entry — how amazing is that? What a miracle that so many have been healed — it seems there is agreement on the feeling people get when visiting Rhonda. I’m looking forward to hearing your experience.

Funny how men see things in black and white, isn’t it? I know you are searching — I wonder if it’s because you have this big, amazing heart and a very powerful soul. It feels like you want to connect, create and solve — you bring people together to change the world, even if it’s just a small corner. I see you being capable of reaching across the world to make a difference.

Men are great at moving things in the physical plane — I think women are the creators in the spiritual plane. Now that’s a generalization, but maybe that’s why we feel so unfulfilled and sometimes stuck — what we are capable of is part of the 99% of life we cannot see — and we are taught to only trust what we can. How challenging is that? I wonder if we just surrendered and trusted — how our lives would break free.

With love,
Heather

By: karen

karen — Thu, 20 Jul 2006 18:20:01 +0000

Heather I really enjoyed your blog with Rhonda I know the drive for perfectionism and the worry cycle Everyone I know used to say Why worry Karen will do it for you
Thank you for sharing your session and talking aboutthe beautiful journey to get thee
I have a tiny idea of what to expect If Rhonda could see me 360′ and talk forme that would certainly help me figure out ehat is going on inside
Rob keps saying what are you looking for what do you want I dont really know until i find it but he doesnt understand that type of reasoning he is black or white thats it.
I want to learn as much as Ican and I know somwhere I will find the answer I will know it I wil feel it in my heart I have made a lot of progrrsss but life is a long journey and all the messed up stuff before needs to be rebuilt
Thank you for sharing this part of your life
Lots of love,
KAren

By: palmtreechick

palmtreechick — Wed, 19 Jul 2006 16:00:58 +0000

Hey Heather,
Thanks for that response. I’m glad you’re at a point where you can when you need a little help and make the changes you need. Paying attention to yourself and your needs is important.

I did post on Christine’s site. She posted back as well.
I’m glad you like my dream of being a country singer.

Have a great day.
xo
ptc

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 19 Jul 2006 15:19:36 +0000

Hi Palmtreechick, It was a great experience — I’m still feeling so good today. Well, the old me was always doing for others and never for myself. This was part of my issue — I’d work ridiculously long hours at work, worry about the workload on my employees more than myself — and always, always be the responsible one — i’s dotted and t’s crossed or else! Sounds like a recipe for disaster, huh?

Well, it ended up meaning that I could never relax. I never knew what to do with spare time, except over exercise and run around. My husband said I made him tired just looking at me! If I really had nothing to do, I’d b/p as a way to fill the time. I was empty inside and running around trying to hide from it.

Now things are much different — but it took a year of chaos and breaking down all of the stuctures I had created in my life to get here. The “old me” was still hanging out it the wings though, waiting for me to get distracted. That’s when the old caretaking gene would come in. Now I’m paying attention more and backing off sooner. I still step in it sometimes, so that’s where I asked Rhonda for help. We’ll see what happens next!

I’m glad you checked out Christine’s site — she writes beautifully — especially about her fears and journey to become a singer. I really like how she describes her dreams — and benig herself in the industry she is in. I bet she’d correspond with you if you e-mailed her or asked questions in her blog. I just love your dream of being a country singer — sooo cool!

With love,
Heather

By: palmtreechick

palmtreechick — Wed, 19 Jul 2006 13:53:31 +0000

Hey Heather,

Glad you had such a great experience. Sounds wonderful! Do you find that you don’t care for yourself as much as you should because you are so busy caring and worrying about others?

Oh, I checked out Christine’s site. Thanks for sending me there.

ptc