Comments on: Where Is The Love, The Love, The Love?

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 08 Aug 2006 03:51:40 +0000

Hi Nancy, You are so kind — thank you! I am happy that you stopped by and left a comment — what a gift to have you here!

With love,
Heather

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 08 Aug 2006 03:50:14 +0000

Hi Karen, I am sending you lots of love right now! I am sorry I missed your call as well and will definitely call you to talk about this. What came through loud and clear in your comment is this need to listen to yourself.

You have so much wisdom, so many answers. It becomes confusing, doesn’t it, to listen to everyone else? I did that too…listened to everyone and never to myself. Because of that, I felt like I didn’t know how to do anything. I was afraid most of the time. I was afraid of doing the wrong thing — especially when I first started on my recovery journey. I was almost superstitious about everything I needed to do — as if I’d fail if I didn’t listen to all the advice. The breakthrough came for me when I hit rock bottom and admitted that I had to start listening to myself.

At that time, I even did some things that Rhonda told me to avoid — just because I felt my inner wisdom saying to do it. And it worked. I finally started to feel empowered. Remember that Rhonda is speaking as your inner wisdom to you — becuase you aren’t hearing your inner wisdom right now. That was true for me too — and still is in some areas of my life. When you start to hear your inner wisdom — when Karen starts speaking to you — through feelings or visions or just “knowing” — you can trust that. You are your best guide. Once you hear that guidance and trust it, you won’t need to be swayed by anyone else.

This is when true learning comes in — this is when you can learn from others and mix it with your own wisdom and i nner guideance. This is when you get really powerful. And you already have so much power and charisma, Karen. It’s amazing what you are capable of! Nurture your inner self — she is so amazing and wise!

With love,
Heather

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 08 Aug 2006 03:41:13 +0000

Hi Meg, I’m so glad you liked that — it’s funny how simply breathing and focusing on love can change our whole body chemistry, isn’t it? I hope you are filled with love each day!

With love,
Heather

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 08 Aug 2006 03:32:26 +0000

Hi PTC, Thanks — I soaked up a lot and have so much to write about! Thanks again for the e-mail you sent me! Now I have some catching up to do reading your blog too!

With love,
Heather

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 08 Aug 2006 03:28:54 +0000

Hi Turtle, Once again, your comment is so full of thought-provoking questions — and answers as well! I am so happy that one of the communities you have found is here — I feel grateful for your presence and I know your comments help others.

One thing that struck me — you wrote so many beautiful things that you want in your life. Are they in your vision? You deserve to have those things in your life, leaving out the negatives! Also, you said that you want to look into someone’s eyes — I can totally understand that. So while you manifest that in your vision, is it possible to look into your own beautiful eyes and get to know Turtle? This part of you who felt like she had to work harder and do more — is it possible to look into her eyes and tell her it’s okay for her to rest now?

I can identify with you about having a long tist of things we “should” do to recover. I had that list and felt bad if I didn’t do them all, check them off. I would think my recovery hinged on doing them — sometimes in the right sequence. Now, I rarely do many of them. I do my morning healing meditation, I walk or do yoga — and now I do EFT as much as possible. But if I miss something, I’ve learned that it’s okay — maybe even fun to slack off now and then. We sometimes imprison ourselves in “work” we need to do for recovery. Consider how to be gentle to yourself after working so hard all your life. This being gentle may be more healing to you than your list — you will know the right things for yourself because you have that inner wisdom!

What you wrote about letting pain and grief in your heart to know love — I think there is something to that if it means acknowledging and accepting where you are with whatever grief and pain you may have. And from this place of acceptance, allowing yourself to be open to releasing it. Consider focusing on complete self acceptance and love — bringing the feeling of both into your life. You so deserve this!

With love,
Heather

By: Nancy

Nancy — Mon, 07 Aug 2006 16:31:59 +0000

Heather,
Utah sounds fabulous!! Thank you for helping to unlock the “Secret., and what an amazing key to have found….LOVE, LOVE,LOVE.
Miss Emily, You are right and aren’t we lucky to all be LOVED by such an Angel.

By: Meg

Meg — Tue, 01 Aug 2006 03:22:08 +0000

Wow, very inspiring post. I feel empowered while really and practice the breath.

Thanks Heather for bring all the positive energy to us.

Meg

By: karen

karen — Mon, 31 Jul 2006 01:04:27 +0000

Heather I am trying to feel all the love I feel I push too hard and try too hard maybe canceling everything out I am so worn out and overwhelmed from my trip I dont want to let it go I need to keep what I learned with me but yet I have to move on
Today has been a difficult day I was so sorry I couldnt reach you I had my session with Rhonda It was amazing but also so terribly confusing I know the notes will come but There was so much to take in and so much I didnt understand or LIKE In fact some of it I hated It scared me I shared some with Rob(not the dinero) he said everythingis a suggestion you can only do what you can do I need your validation on these feelings I dont think I have brought it up before but I have alwasy saught validation As if my own decision wasnt good enough I really need you for this
I know that I love my self and I care ansd love for others but as someone said I dont know the minister , Rhonda someone else do I want to stay like this do I feel this is better I know I dont but I feel stuck Some decisions are just to hard for me and so much inofrmation and advice and theroy has been thrown at me that I am getting confused
On the one hand I am told the things that would be better for me and would make my recovery better and lasting and fulfilled and then there are the things I want and love that I am so unsure about
The one thing I am sure about is that I am stuck somewhere in a hole and dont really know for sure which is the way out lke Alice Who is the one that is all right and mighty Isnt’t it GOD? and I am having trouble with him
Love & HELP
KAren

By: palmtreechick

palmtreechick — Sun, 30 Jul 2006 23:22:42 +0000

Hey Heather,

Glad you’re enjoying yourself out there. Great post. Soak it all in for us!

By: turtle

turtle — Sun, 30 Jul 2006 11:35:45 +0000

Heather,
I feel very much like you are the mother birdy…you leave the nest and go out in search of
spritual, physical, and emotional food for us little baby birds…you bring it back to the nest and
feed us…Thank you for this latest feeding. The truth is I know we are all at a pot luck and
bring food of all kinds..flavors and textures to each other…because you have created this blog for us to be each others teachers we have a larger arena to learn in. I don’t know if people read each others post, I imagine they do. I am learning so much by being a part of this community and appreciate everyones sharing. I feel a connection, I am not alone. As a community, we can learn and grow with each other. This ends up being a very large and mulitfaceted gift. While I do not know what tomorrow will bring, I feel I have support.
Two things come to mind, one is that I am finding that I am making some of my closest friends or connections on the internet and the telephone. The 12 step program that I belong to involves phone meetings which brings this community together of people all over the states and world. I have made some incredible freindships over the phone with people I may never meet or see. I have met many people on different internet groups that I have had a connection to…this seems to be my bigger community…not the town I live in. Since I moved here in November, I have had a very hard time with finding people to connect with and with feeling at home. I miss looking into the eyes of the people I am meeting….a dimension is missing and yet I am fed and nurtured in ways that I appreciate.
The other thing that comes to mind is that since I was a very young girl, I believed I was receiving the message that I was flawed by how I was talked to, the words used, how I was treated, the expressions on the faces of others, tones and body language. I began to try to be a “good girl” to be helpful and take care of others. I believed I continually fell short.
I decided I needed to “get better”, fix myself, be better, do better, work harder on myself..
But, I never measured up…My life has been about one round of fixing myself after another.
This has been a big job for me…in my mind I have failed over and over to be worthy of life on this planet….I have to admit recovery brings this up for me and sometimes I just can’t do enough…..I want most to recover by getting a breather and I am not sure how. I want recovery to be fun and playful as well as soul searching and stretching…Sometimes the list seems really long…journaling, yoga, exercise, meditation, reading, internal dialoging, listening to inspirational tapes, working my twelve step program, reaching out to others, volunteer work, therapy, body work….seeing an alternative practioner for my health issues..
examining my thoughts and changing my thinking, practicing new ways of being…this list could go on and I don’t do half of these things…but, I admit, I think I should. Even by writing this, I feel I am breaking a code of positive thinking and breaking the “laws of attraction.”
I feel I am doomed to fail again if I don’t buckle under and embrace all of life as it actually is minute by minute. In order to get to love, I think I have to allow the pain and grief in my heart and know that that is love just as much as anything else. If we are present to ourselves and present in life, how is love any different than anything else. Isn’t God/Love everything?
Maybe, I have said to much, but, my heart cries out to know the real truth, the truest of truth
of my being of your being….