In my last post, a reader — D — wrote a beautiful letter about recovering after making the decision to follow her heart. Her letter is very inspiring and you can read it here, if you have not done so already.
D also asked me some excellent questions — they are so good that I’d like to share them with everyone so we can all benefit from a discussion on them.
Please share your thoughts — I’d love to hear other perspectives!
Questions from D
I belive I’m grateful for being bulimic that short time (around 2 years), because I wouldn’t be in the place I’m in now, but I have my doubts (like being ashamed of myself and wakness, even not trusting myself completely).
They only appear when I’m in negative mood, which brings negative memories, and I start being affraid of a possible relapse.
Now I fight them with thinking of the things I did and learned, sometimes even NLP (like imagining It as a scene), but I feel my self -worth was wounded, and regaining it is still a matter of question.
How did you mange to stay on track?
Heather’s Answer: D, you are very wise! You are already doing exactly what many healers tell us to do when clearing negative energy from our minds and bodies.
What happens to us when we get illness or addiction (what people get often depends on their genetic blueprint PLUS the thoughts they have which “charge” that blueprint. For more, see Biology of Belief by international biologist, Bruce Lipton) is that we tend to have negative thoughts alongside the illness or addiction.
I think it’s the negative thoughts and beliefs that cause the illness or addiction because they injure our bodies just as any physical blow would.
After awhile, they become habits.
Our energy has habits.
When negativity returns after you’ve been working hard to clear it, this is only becuase your energy is “used to” being that way. Kind of programmed in, like the default mode on your computer.
Was it a constant conscious reminding or you somehow integrated it in your way of thinking?
Heather’s Answer: Beautiful question, D, because it’s BOTH!
Getting Clear on my Thoughts
The first thing I did was get clear about what I wanted to create, then I got into the energy of that WANT in the present moment by making it an I AM statement.
For example, if I would have negative thoughts about my body image that kept returning, I’d go back to my I am statements. I stopped saying things like “I am thin and lean” because I didn’t want to focus on being thin and lean anymore.
I wanted to focus on being completly happy and grateful for where I am now. Somehow, I knew that if I could release the need for my body to be something, it would support me without keying into old negative thinking.
So I started looking at myself and saying, I love my body. I am happy with how I look. I am beautiful just the way I am, etc. , whenever I looked in the mirror. Getting into the energy of satisfaction, joy and gratitude was making it “integrated into my way of thinking.”
Watching my thoughts
When negative thoughts would show up, I’d use clearing techniques, like visualization and the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). These techniques are excellent for moving negative energy out of my body.
However, it’s important to be very aware of your thoughts, so you can catch them — even the little “tapes” that play in the back of your mind. Often, I’d find myself thinking positive thoughts, but having these little doubts in the back of my mind. These little doubts sabotage all of the work you are doing to be positive.
If something negative is happening, it’s actually a good sign that perhaps you have doubts or fears in the back of your mind. If so, clear them.
Any technique that helps you feel positive is GREAT — NLP, reiki, coaching, Rapid Eye Therapy (I just had a rapid eye therapy session that cleared 6 generations of eating disorders from my ancestral DNA — awesome!), etc.
Over Time, Your Thoughts Have New Habits
Over time, you are “reprogramming your computer” — your thoughts start to stay more positive more of the time.
You are more often in the energy of gratitude, joy, peace and trust.
This doesn’t mean there won’t be times you want to use your energy clearing techniques — you’ll just find that you naturally flow into this stable, grounded and joyful way of being.
Knowing that you have the tools to clear negative energy helps to feel safe — it helps your trust grow.
Any other thoughts in the blogosphere?
I like the way you speak in terms of thoughts and energy – beacuse to me it’s easier to track what my energy is like, than to think about my thoughts (there’s still to many of them!). It’s good to know they can alter with your energy.
The techniques you use, they sound like healthy new habits. I tried NLP with a headache, and was really surprised to see it worked. I’ll look in all my EFT newsletters to see how to use it with thought patterns. I’l also keep in mind about the other technoques you mentioned.
Those are great advices you gave, Heather, thank you!
I see now thet I really need to learn new tools for clearing negativity if I want to stay on track.
Comment by D — March 5, 2007 @ 7:56 am
Hi D, Thanks for writing in! I can imagine you’d really be attuned to energy — you are an artist after all! I find that many of us who’ve experienced disordered eating are very attuned to energy and very intuitive. Sometimes, we may find we pick up energy from other people and wonder why we feel sad or depressed all of a sudden.
I have found that as my energy is grounded, I am much more aware of where my energy originates — from my true essence, where I feel good and joyful, from my thoughts (whether positive or negative) or from “out there” (people, groups).
Working with NLP, EFT and other energy techniques is great for developing a deeper understanding of energy and how you can allow it to move through you, without getting attached to it.
D, you are an amazing woman and it’s so exciting to see you making your mark in the world by doing what you love!
With love,
Heather
Comment by Heather — March 8, 2007 @ 9:50 pm
Hi,
Love the post, but want to know a little more. What is NLP? Also, Heather, I believe there is a lot that we don’t understand in this mind and universe of ours, but clearing your ancestral DNA going back 6 generations? Can you elaborate on this because it sounds….well…weird. Have I missed something, or am I missing something I should be looking into?
Looking forward to your response.
Big Hug.
Comment by Miss Blue — March 9, 2007 @ 11:56 am
Heather
I really loved this q&a with D
We all learn and grow from each other
I have reached the pont in my life that I have realoized I am grateful fot he things that went on in my life that brought me to now I am grateful to have answers for my illnesses and know that I can be activley owrking on making me better physcally mentally and emotionally Ilearned a lot fo htat from you
Mcuh love
Karen
Comment by karen — March 10, 2007 @ 5:35 pm
Heather I would like to know more about Rapid Eye therapy and the NLP
Love
KAren
Comment by karen — March 10, 2007 @ 7:14 pm
Hi Miss Blue, Thanks for stopping by! I’m glad you liked the post — and you asked awesome questions!!!!
You’re right, the generational clearing sounds weird, for sure! But it was great! I explained NLP, Rapid Eye Therapy and other energy work in this post: NLP, RET- What? Energy Techniques to Release Negativity.
Your questions were great and I wanted to give a better answer than could fit here!
With love,
Heather
Comment by Heather — March 11, 2007 @ 1:30 pm
Hi Karen, Yes — wasn’t D’s story great??? Thank you for sharing how you feel today. Sometimes we can forget that life really is a blessing. It’s easy to get caught up in struggle and pain…we’ve all been there, right?
I admire you for realizing that what has passed has had it’s purpose. You are doing a great job working to release it — you are one of the strongest people I know. Do you see yourself as strong?
I hope that my explanation of RET and NLP (see comment to Miss Blue, above) helped give you an idea of these energy techniques.
With love,
Heather
Comment by Heather — March 11, 2007 @ 1:34 pm