Comments on: Bulimia Recovery: Stopping the Cycle of Relapse Part 2 http://transcendbulimia.com/archives/182 An Uplifting Journey to Recovery from Bulimia - with Tips and Coaching for Your Own Recovery. Wed, 02 Jul 2008 19:39:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Tracey http://transcendbulimia.com/archives/182/comment-page-1#comment-39014 Tracey Wed, 20 Jun 2007 10:27:59 +0000 http://transcendbulimia.com/?p=182#comment-39014 Hi Heather I really enjoyed your post. I'm thinking how desparate I am to get out of the illness, and relapses that happen all the time when I think I really want to let of of the habit. I want to know what your opinions are on hypnosis as a type of therapy for the binging habit? Hi Heather I really enjoyed your post. I’m thinking how desparate I am to get out of the illness, and relapses that happen all the time when I think I really want to let of of the habit. I want to know what your opinions are on hypnosis as a type of therapy for the binging habit?

]]> By: Becca http://transcendbulimia.com/archives/182/comment-page-1#comment-38752 Becca Mon, 18 Jun 2007 16:33:05 +0000 http://transcendbulimia.com/?p=182#comment-38752 A welcome reprise, Heather! Thanks for touching on these issues specifically. I've found that it's easy to say "well if I just get through this week..." then I can finally relax/do what I want to do/focus on what's important, etc. In fact, I started getting panic-y yesterday, thinking of the extrememly packed week I have ahead. For me it's a cycle of -feeling out of control and then on of the following: A -jumping to control it in a "perfect" way (not realistic, perfect) -being unable to meet my standards of perfection -being dissappointed and taking it out with a bulimic cycle B -procrastinating and giving my time up to the wind and rush-rush rush -never even preparing/planning by focusing on a bulimic cycle -getting upset for not preparing/planning -bulimic cycle ensues This weekend I was more out-of-control with my eating habits and I thought back to your post and took them as little red flags. Last night I looked at all that I "had" to accomplish and decided that I would choose my priorities--the ones that make me feel good and have the most output for little emotional expenditure--and they are: -having a successful day 1 of the conference I'm staging (to me this means all material and agendas are prepared and staff is scheduled and "in the loop" as well as delegating, delegating, delegating) -throwing a fun, relaxed party Friday night (my sister's graduation) .. not freaking out that we won't have enough food for 75 people... realizing that it's okay if there are store-bought dishes -having lots of healthy food on hand and sticking to my workout schedule--even if this means if I seem to be "less devoted" to work than others (i.e. I'm not there from 5am to 9pm at night... I can do 6am-3pm and expect that someone will be there to do the hand holding, while I'm at the gym taking care of myself) -Asking for support is good, and if the support doesn't come through EXACTLY as I imagined, it'll be okay and it won't reflect directly on me--they're called "team efforts" for a reason -it's okay to reward myself even if I'm not perfect... I'm getting a pedicure on Saturday and a message with my boyfriend to celebrate the week and the end of our finals! Heather, I am currently doing 10-20% of work that is the type of "drain" you mentioned--where you just don't dig it at ALL and it's a chore to even think about it. I've attempted to par this down, but I really do want the references and the possible experience the work MIGHT bring. I hadn't really looked at it as "soul sapping" until you pointed out how much of an effect it has--how it really is the bane of my day. I'm going to start a mental plan of how I can develop these contacts into work that I WANT to be doing--as well as some sort of timeline that I can stick to (will try it for 6 weeks and if it's awful, then will find something else). I think "asking the universe" for signs is a good awareness... for me it's asking whatever is negative to surface to the top and then I can finally "see" it. Thanks for your guidance and for listening! With sunshine, R A welcome reprise, Heather! Thanks for touching on these issues specifically. I’ve found that it’s easy to say “well if I just get through this week…” then I can finally relax/do what I want to do/focus on what’s important, etc. In fact, I started getting panic-y yesterday, thinking of the extrememly packed week I have ahead. For me it’s a cycle of
-feeling out of control and then on of the following:
A
-jumping to control it in a “perfect” way (not realistic, perfect)
-being unable to meet my standards of perfection
-being dissappointed and taking it out with a bulimic cycle
B
-procrastinating and giving my time up to the wind and rush-rush rush
-never even preparing/planning by focusing on a bulimic cycle
-getting upset for not preparing/planning
-bulimic cycle ensues

This weekend I was more out-of-control with my eating habits and I thought back to your post and took them as little red flags. Last night I looked at all that I “had” to accomplish and decided that I would choose my priorities–the ones that make me feel good and have the most output for little emotional expenditure–and they are:
-having a successful day 1 of the conference I’m staging (to me this means all material and agendas are prepared and staff is scheduled and “in the loop” as well as delegating, delegating, delegating)
-throwing a fun, relaxed party Friday night (my sister’s graduation) .. not freaking out that we won’t have enough food for 75 people… realizing that it’s okay if there are store-bought dishes
-having lots of healthy food on hand and sticking to my workout schedule–even if this means if I seem to be “less devoted” to work than others (i.e. I’m not there from 5am to 9pm at night… I can do 6am-3pm and expect that someone will be there to do the hand holding, while I’m at the gym taking care of myself)
-Asking for support is good, and if the support doesn’t come through EXACTLY as I imagined, it’ll be okay and it won’t reflect directly on me–they’re called “team efforts” for a reason
-it’s okay to reward myself even if I’m not perfect… I’m getting a pedicure on Saturday and a message with my boyfriend to celebrate the week and the end of our finals!

Heather, I am currently doing 10-20% of work that is the type of “drain” you mentioned–where you just don’t dig it at ALL and it’s a chore to even think about it. I’ve attempted to par this down, but I really do want the references and the possible experience the work MIGHT bring. I hadn’t really looked at it as “soul sapping” until you pointed out how much of an effect it has–how it really is the bane of my day. I’m going to start a mental plan of how I can develop these contacts into work that I WANT to be doing–as well as some sort of timeline that I can stick to (will try it for 6 weeks and if it’s awful, then will find something else). I think “asking the universe” for signs is a good awareness… for me it’s asking whatever is negative to surface to the top and then I can finally “see” it.

Thanks for your guidance and for listening!

With sunshine,
R

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