Comments on: Talking With My Husband – How Recovery Has Changed Me http://transcendbulimia.com/archives/76 An Uplifting Journey to Recovery from Bulimia - with Tips and Coaching for Your Own Recovery. Wed, 02 Jul 2008 19:39:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Heather http://transcendbulimia.com/archives/76/comment-page-1#comment-2241 Heather Thu, 09 Nov 2006 01:52:32 +0000 http://transcendbulimia.com/?p=76#comment-2241 Hi Rose, I can understand why you'd feel the way you do. For me, on the surface, I always had good friendships -- but underneath, not feeling loveable made me feel isolated, unloved and misunderstood in general. This was true in my marriage too, even though I thought of my husband as my best friend. I had to let go of my negative thoughts about myself and learn to love myself before I could really feel loved by others. I'm sure I became more loving too -- instead of a perfectionist care taker :), like I used to be. One thing that helped me learn to love myself -- was to start feeling and acting like I did. By taking care of myself, setting personal boundaries and dropping many of my perfectionist ways. All of this happened little by little, but with each thing I gave up, I felt better and better. Consider bringing the energy of self-love -- what would it feel like? How can you feel that way for 10 minutes, then 15, then 20, etc. each day? What would you be doing if you truly loved and appreciated yourself? How would you be feeling? Start there and see what happens. You are worth it! With love, Heather Hi Rose, I can understand why you’d feel the way you do. For me, on the surface, I always had good friendships — but underneath, not feeling loveable made me feel isolated, unloved and misunderstood in general. This was true in my marriage too, even though I thought of my husband as my best friend. I had to let go of my negative thoughts about myself and learn to love myself before I could really feel loved by others. I’m sure I became more loving too — instead of a perfectionist care taker :) , like I used to be.

One thing that helped me learn to love myself — was to start feeling and acting like I did. By taking care of myself, setting personal boundaries and dropping many of my perfectionist ways. All of this happened little by little, but with each thing I gave up, I felt better and better.

Consider bringing the energy of self-love — what would it feel like? How can you feel that way for 10 minutes, then 15, then 20, etc. each day? What would you be doing if you truly loved and appreciated yourself? How would you be feeling? Start there and see what happens. You are worth it!

With love,
Heather

]]> By: Rose http://transcendbulimia.com/archives/76/comment-page-1#comment-2138 Rose Mon, 06 Nov 2006 02:36:15 +0000 http://transcendbulimia.com/?p=76#comment-2138 Bulimia has been a fixture for about half my life and I'm now in my late 30s. I find myself intrigued by the fact that women (and men I suppose) suffering badly from bulimia can maintain relationships. My own have been shortlived and very unsatisfactory thanks to the disorder. My friendships have also been affectedly badly by it. Most of the time I feel extremely isolated. I am now beginning to recover and I would like to know if other sufferers have experienced the same isolation and, even more, I want to know if and how they overcame it. R Bulimia has been a fixture for about half my life and I’m now in my late 30s. I find myself intrigued by the fact that women (and men I suppose) suffering badly from bulimia can maintain relationships. My own have been shortlived and very unsatisfactory thanks to the disorder. My friendships have also been affectedly badly by it. Most of the time I feel extremely isolated. I am now beginning to recover and I would like to know if other sufferers have experienced the same isolation and, even more, I want to know if and how they overcame it.

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