Comments on: How to Heal By Letting Grudges Go

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 17 May 2006 22:07:07 +0000

Emily, I love your insight on this — and remembering that we could spend as much time finding the WRONG things in our lives as the RIGHT things in our lives — it’s all up to us! Bravo to you for choosing to see what’s wonderful! And for re-examining your grudges. I’m going to join you in that and become very aware of my grudges, using my thoughts and emotions as a barometer. A fun experiment to see what else I can release!

Thanks for the info on Erik, I’m going to look for him and see if I can get into one of those classes. Yumm! Every now and then, I could use a kick-start to my cooking. I tend to cook really simple meals, using no recipes and that take very litte time and effort (in the scheme of all fresh foods anyway — not as simple as opening a box!!). Then I get into my routine and forget that there are a million other simple, yet delicious recipes (like the salmon one you pointed out!) that I could experiment with!

With love,
Heather

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 17 May 2006 22:01:19 +0000

Hi Karen, Where did we learn this way of beating ourselves up? In some instances, I think it’s a female thing — we learn to blame ourselves or feel powerless. It’s probably why women tend to get depressed, ED and IBS more than men — internalizing our fears, anger and negative emotions. Men tend to act it out — and it’s okay for them to rage, yell, be viloent, etc. Not really okay, but more accepted in society.

As society changes, it will be interesting to see what happens. It’s becoming less acceptable for men to act out in anger — people are calling them on it. And the number of men with eating disorders are growing. I’m not trying to draw a direct correlation, just making an observation that we pick up on thoughts and beliefs as children — based on the approval we get from parents or what we see others doing.

Somehow, we bought into these beliefs. I am so glad that you have realized that you used to go outside yourself for validation and are doing that less now! I’ve had the same realization in my life. I used to be so afraid of what I wanted and needed that validation. Now, I’m starting to feel really good about my own inner validation. It’s never to late to learn these things is it?

With love,
Heather

By: karen

karen — Wed, 17 May 2006 21:21:09 +0000

I just found Hay House Radio on my computer.
Thank you for everything I am going to listen to sevral broadcasts
Love,
KAren

By: Emily

Emily — Wed, 17 May 2006 21:20:34 +0000

Heather, the issue of ‘beating yourself up’ really resonated with me, and, again, came just at the appropriate time! (I LOVE the synchronicity!) I had just been thinking about how some people are unhappy because they aren’t getting what they want in life, people aren’t doing what they expect them to do, etc., and life is unfair and not worth living. I found myself thinking about the nature of my OWN suffering. I realized that, as far as I am concerned, there are PLENTY of things in life that make it worth living! My life is FULL of wonderful people and experiences! Then, how come I am still suffering? Because I constantly feel I should be doing more, should be better at this or that, am not good enough, not dedicated enough, not motivated enough… I am never enough. Why is that? What if I just accepted that I am the way I am? I can choose to better myself, but, unless I’m actually going to take action and do something specific, there is no point in feeling depressed and guilty about NOT doing it!

Your post really got me thinking. I know I hold old grudges that I haven’t quite been able to let go of. Maybe this is the time to re-examine them and see what steps I could take towards releasing them.

By the way, my friend Erik, whose website has the salmon recipe, is originally from Florida, and has taught cooking classes there in the past when going back to visit his family. Never know, maybe he’ll teach one when you happen to be in Florida anyways, and you could attend… He’s full of great information on nutrition, and his recipes are fun and delicious!

love,
Emily

By: karen

karen — Wed, 17 May 2006 21:16:11 +0000

Heather I used to beat myself up all the time I was alwasys wrong always made the wrong choice. I have read a book by Debbie Ford Chasing the Shadow or something like that A friend toldme about it
My friend is very intuitive She’s always going on these retreats allover and goes to Deepok Chopras place in San Deigo and she has beena great person to know You would like her. I have never heard of Hay House Radio before What is it Can you get it one the west coast?
I have been doing some research on Rhonda Lenair and the Maya Massage and the Westin A Price found. These are areas I want to pursue this summwr I also want to get in touch with Emily I cant beleive she lives so close
I have someone in my life who creates a lot of pain and negative energy. I will probably write about her in my blog The one thing I never could understand is why we spend time talking about those we dont want in our lives I think it might be for validation I always used to seek validation for everything I am not so bad now
Thanks for opening my mind to so much good energy
with love,
KAren