Over the past 4 months, I have been in the process of writing a book. At first, I was pushing and forcing myself to write, which started to feel like pressure…pretty soon, the book writing moved from passion to pressure!
Have you ever done that? Felt like you really wanted to do something and then set all kinds of unrealitic goals for yourself…until you felt overwhelmed or pressured? Well, there I was, at the brink of blaming myself for not being fast enough or productive enough (remember my theme from the previous couple of posts?)…until I stopped just shy of going there.
See, while I’m still practicing, I am finally getting it. I can create my own goals that FEEL GOOD in terms of the pace I set — so that I can stay in balance in my life. So that I can love the goals I am passionate about. And so they don’t turn from passion to pressure.
So I shifted my focus to ALLOWING.
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This topic is actually quite appropriate after taking some time off from writing in my blog. Because it’s about the one thing I had been denying myself for years, that upon giving back to myself made a profound difference.
Recovery is a lifelong process. Does that sound depressing? It’s not. Because in my definition of recovery from eating disorders, depression or any addiction, it’s about learning how to LIVE. First learning how to live in peace and contentment…then learning how to live with meaning and joy.
In all the work I’ve done coaching and researching this thing called happiness, I’ve found that there is no such thing as being “done.” We never get “there” when there means a perfect life where everything is completely done and there are no mountains left to climb.
In fact, what I’ve found is that we are “done” when we’ve mastered the art of perspective.
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In the next few weeks, I’ll be updating you on the amazing experiences I’ve had in learning how to feel “good enough,” which was my New Year’s resolution. In the meantime, I have gotten settled in my Caribbean home and wanted to share a relevant post from my Caribbean blog.
It’s about learning to breathe. One of my clients recenlty asked me about good resources for learning to breathe — which helps with depression and anxiety. This post shares tips and resources that worked for me and countless others!
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It’s been 6 weeks now that we’ve been back in the Caribbean. And it truly changes you.
Often, friends ask me to talk about the differences between life in the US and life in the Caribbean. I have done this in an earlier post, but only hinted at the differences that I’ve experienced at the core of my being.
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Dear Ones, Our biggest lesson is self-love. No matter what it is we want to do in this world, self-love gives us the foundation to get there.
Why is this so hard?
Why do we keep forgetting?
Why do we feel we are not worthy?
Why do we do for others and not for ourselves?
Why do we spend time on things that don’t nourish us and let our time slip away?
What is it we are longing for?
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In part one of How to Deal with Physical & Emotional Pain in Eating Disorders Recovery, I outlined the typical pain experienced in recovery and some of the reasons why we have that pain.
In this post, I would like to share some of the solutions that I used to deal with pain in my recovery.
Most of my clients, like me, want natural treatments for digestive pain or other physical and emotional pain. The good news is, there are so many options…you may even have some of your own favorites and I’d love to hear about them!
Here Are Some of My Favorites:
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I have had many questions lately about dealing with physical pain in recovery.
If you currently have an eating disorder, you may have pain. In fact, you may be in a holding pattern with pain, where it has become the norm for you. So much so that you don’t really feel it.
Some of the pain I had before recovery from bulimia:
- Foggy thinking – I had a great memory and while I often felt full of energy, I felt like I had to expend extra energy working through a veil of fog during my day.
- Digestive pain – gas, bloating, constipation and often, crippling digestive pain.
- Body pain – The track of pain was in the “stomach meridian” in Chinese medicine (from my mouth, up to my head and down through my neck, to my shoulder and all the way down to my big toe). While the pain varied, it was interesting to see that it tracked this meridian. Even more interesting is that the spirit of this meridian is “purpose of life,” the orifice is the mouth and the chakras are the 2nd and 3rd (solar plexus, our power house).
I had the same idea I think we all have…in recovery, I’ll feel much better, right?
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